I’m in a quandary. I’ve been seeing a guy for a bit. He’s really nice and really sweet. He has a sharp wit and a great sense of humor. We share enough interests to be compatible, but not so many that it’d be boring or annoying.
I like him, but I’m not sure if I’m falling for him. I’m pretty sure we’re not sexually compatible, but he’s trying.
That’s fine. I can roll with that, but this past weekend he brought up the subject of “labels” and “relationships” and “What are we?”.
Fuck. I thought that was the woman’s job to bring that shit up. >.<
I left the conversation with urging him to think about what label he’d want and what that’d mean to him and we’d talk about it again after thinking it over.
I really don’t know what to do. Is it fair to keep seeing him, but not want a label? Is that disrespectful? We have been seeing each other a lot, but do I want a de facto boyfriend? Am I just aiming for something I once had and I’m not letting go of it? Or do I have a valid concern in wanting to see more sexual compatibility before slapping a label on something?
If it weren’t for the sexual compatibility issues, I’d be all for it. I might even push for something more defined and secure. Am I being shallow? Am I being selfish? Do I need more patience? Fuck.
But, damn it, he’s so dang nice. So, so nice. I need nice. I want nice. I deserve nice. It’s refreshing. I have a great time even when we do nothing.
Shit. I don’t know what to do.